Date: 2018-03-13 09:50
Is this a big deal or is it a deal breaker? I don't really have anyone to talk to. I don't want to tell my family because I am afraid they will stop respecting him. I have asked him to come clean with his parents because it would make me feel like it's a sign of being truly repentant. (I am not religious.) It's been two months since I found out and he hasn't done it yet. He is seeing a psychiatrist and telling her his life story so that's more a shoulder to whine and cry on than someone who will hold him accountable for what he did.
You could get all of those answers with a simple install of a spy app like FlexiSpy or Spyera on her phone. Be careful because people can become so obsessed with finding the truth that they end up pushing the other person away. She was wrong to cheat on you, and it will take some time to rebuild trust. Just don't go overboard trying to still prove she is cheating. At that point, you may as well just break up with her and save yourself a lot of wasted money searching for empty truth. Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help
First and foremost, any man that lays a hand on a pregnant woman is no respectable man. Secondly, a cheater will ALWAYS deny, deny, deny! Getting defensive is a good indication you are not being told the truth. I can definitely understand your trust issues, especially when you have indicated to him that what he is doing is inappropriate and he is still continuing his illicit activities .
There is a free online search tool at Social Searcher that will allow you to see all web mentions, news blogs, forums and comments including Twitter, Facebook, and WhatsApp. However, this site might be just as good as using Google to find out information about him. If you input his name into the Google search engine you should be able to see what social media belongs to on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. However, if he is using a fake name, you may not be able to see any information about what social media he belongs to, unless, by chance, you happen to know what his social media alias is. Was this helpful? Yes | No | I need help
If your husband allows you to use his smartphone, then you can check his phone to see if he has any suspicious dating apps installed. Look for apps such as Tinder, POF, Match, OKCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, Bumble and Happn. These are all exclusively dating apps. Check all folders on the phone as sometimes these apps may be hidden in folders.
He has been really distant lately, coming home from work and getting directly in the shower. He says he is too tired to have sex when I want to or he just flat out says “no!” and that hurts my feelings and is embarrassing!
Readers? Thoughts on her telling her community and him telling his parents? What about their sex life? And the online dating? Can a couple move beyond this kind of betrayal? Help.
I wish I could tell you whether to stick it out, but I just don't know enough about what's happening in his head. All I can say is that you have to find people to lean on. You moved closer to your family for a reason. This is no time for isolation.
I have been with my husband for 67 years, and married for almost 65. I am 89 and we have two kids. A few months after my second one was born, I happened upon a dating site left open on my husband's laptop. He had not only created a profile but also corresponded with several women looking to have an intimate fling. It's a pay for dating kind of site.